Faded Friendships

I used to think that friendship surrounded by special events would last a long time. Like my friends, I made when I was engaged or even after I got married. However, those friendships came with a choice or a purpose. Not everyone who comes into your life stays; in fact, sometimes people just plant flowers in your life and leave. Of course, there are weed-like friends too. I am in no place to judge. I just wish to hold on to friendships that meant a lot to me. 

I lost plenty of friendships over the years, and it wasn't because I didn't value them, but because we grew apart. There may be other reasons that are out of your hands, such as rumors. I know I've thought we've all been the target of such hurtful things. I remember all the friendships I had, even the ones as kid. I always struggled to make friends because of my introversion and weirdness. I wasn't normal, and that made others leery of being my friends. I was a free-spirited person and nerdy. 

Looking back now, I come to appreciate the friendships that ended prematurely due to my fault and no fault of my own. You could be upset or spend your lifetime trying to mend a friendship that was never meant to be. It's a sad reality of life. I often think of those friendships from time to time and what I could have done, but in a friendship, it's not just you; it takes two people to make a friendship work. I pray constantly for them and hope the best. I've learned to cultivate friendships with new ones. I have two new friends from my congregation that I value deeply. 

I still keep in touch with the friends from back home in Michigan, but I can't wait until we have all the time in the new world to spend time and not worry about time constraints, schedules, or money to go see them. So don't worry about the faded friendships. Give them grace and let them go. Keep cultivating friendship wherever you go. Nurture the fruitful ones and let the fruitless ones go. You will know them by their fruits, their love, and much more. Having failed friendships doesn't automatically mean you're a bad friend. True, we may need to do some self-examination, but never stop growing and learning how to be a good friend. "A true friend shows love at all times and is a brother who is born for times of distress." (Proverbs 17:17, NWT)

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