Shoulder to Cry On...

The moment you think that you have a shoulder to cry on... but you don't. I don't blame myself and at the same time I do. I married someone who resists their emotions. I don't feel complete emotionally because I have no one to share those delicate things with. Most people, at least, have a mother, father, grandparents or a super close person who they can bond with emotionally. It becomes utterly personal and you just connect like the stars in the sky. Whelp, I don't have that or at least I thought I would. So hence, I thought I share what really matter to a girl more than guys know. 

1. We want to be fondle and cuddled when things are emotionally overwhelming. 

I can speak forever on this subject because I often have to shed tears to get the clue to my husband. Just for him to get the drift. Girls are emotional, duh, however scientifically proven boys are more than men. The outlet is more obvious for a girl than it is for a guy. If you're like me who has a lot of guy friends or brothers you can read it like a charm. This also help us from reaching at the Haagen Dazs and more for you, heck maybe both! We are kittens who sometimes just need to be held and cuddle often or at any convenience. Just like you would hug your mother or significant other close to you. That is how you should hug your wife, fiancee or girlfriend. We can never get enough of that and it makes the day so much brighter for us. Showing that same appreciate to us can do wonder for you.   

2. Girls are Oatmeal Raisin Cookies.

Yes, Oatmeal cookies meaning...we crumble at the slightest remarks, we literally have chip away each word you (guys) said. I know I can speak for myself I am an emotional nut. I have ADD so it makes me more sensitive to things that normally people don't get sensitive to or about. Just a phrase, bad joke, careless thought just make the cookie crumble. I often fall apart at those instances. Think of it like this guys, someone crushing candy on your ego and pride or you just build a Lego house ten feet tall and here comes Bulldozer Bully. Crash!! We know we may appear like elastic and goop that just runs back together. To make it more illustrative, let's put it in Baker's terms. We are formed by the environment around. Dads are the first love and mothers are the main ingredients that makes us sweet. Most people had a bad dad, great mother. Sweet ingredients but in a overheated element (oven) we're over baked, but after some bad relationships, those ingredients are exposed and in that critical time we can either, with a good love turn into a good cookie or through a bad love we become over baked once again.  Not all "Oatmeal Cookies" are the same but in this instance they are, we crumble every time we are mishandled, the great thing about Oatmeal cookies with some water and if needed more sweet ingredients you can readjust the cookie back together, we become something much great than (the person) product before such as sweet honey glazed granola for a parfait. The only thing that's needed is "Tender Love".

3.Guys' Respect VS Girls' Respect.

The concept is different and we want more an emotional approach as well as a physical approach. No touching or aggression, please. Guys want respect when it comes to pride, ego and sense of well-being. I understand that men tend to want a girl to tell them they are a great hunter and that they are the best at feeding the herd. Nothing wrong with that. Women or girls (I'm tossing those terms around, lol.) want to be emotionally acknowledged. We want to be known as the best caregiver, awesome chef and mother of the pride. The sacrifices may not be physical or inanimate but we suffer the things that most people have to read between the lines on; such as having a baby, you may see the labor, witness the birth pains but the emotional sacrifice could go unnoticed and does by many. Postpartum anyone? When she pushes invisible mountains for you and you only see the ugly faces, regardless of what she has done, she has struggled. It's like the pie that your mother made and got that fancy blue ribbon for. She put a lot of "elbow grease" or all of her strength into smashing those blueberries. Talents and quirks are always supposed to be given "kudos points" so you can never go wrong with saying you appreciate how something was done or the thoughts behind the actions she has done. We should be eager to give respect for anything whether little, insignificant, small or big and important. 

Did I miss anything else, girls? I just chose the main three. Read up guys!